|Resonant Leadership: Renewing Yourself and Connecting with Others Through Mindfulness, Hope, and Compassion|
|Richard Boyatzis and Annie McKee|
I learn a little bit from every book I read, and that is exactly how much I learned from Resonant Leadership... a little bit. I was actually quite disappointed in this book. Although I wholeheartedly agree with the concepts behind Boyatzis and McKee’s writing, their presentation of the material fell short of my expectations. Perhaps their greatest failure was the unfulfilling definitions of key terms referenced in the book, such as “resonance,” “renewal,” and the “Sacrifice Syndrome.” For instance, the definition of renewal reads: “Renewal is a dynamic process in which mindfulness, hope, and compassion restore us and counter the destructive effects of power stress, even as the renewal itself feeds the experiences of mindfulness, hope, and compassion.” By failing to provide satisfying definitions early-on, the authors leave the reader to his or her own ambiguous quest for answers throughout the text.
If you couldn’t already tell from that quote, Resonant Leadership argues the importance of mindfulness, hope, and compassion in leadership. Boyatzis and McKee discuss the danger of the “Sacrifice Syndrome,” which the reader eventually discovers means “in the process of giving of ourselves [as leaders], we give too much, leading us to become ineffective.” The authors suggest that leaders can avoid such problems by constantly renewing themselves (see earlier ambiguous definition) and maintaining relationships with families, co-workers, and friends who can provide honest feedback on areas for improvement.
Boyatzkis and McKee delve into stories from the lives of both “resonant” and “dissonant” leaders to explore the personal elements of the leaders’ lives that led to their success or downfall. Self-reflective exercises are provided throughout the book to urge the reader to determine personal ambitions and tendencies.
From reading this book, I learned the paramount importance of taking time in solitude, reviewing personal values periodically, and developing self-awareness in all business and personal interactions. You’re welcome…you now know as much as I do about resonant leadership.
"Emotional intelligence (EI) accounts for 85 to 90 percent of the difference between outstanding leaders and their more average peers."
"Today social scientists study what they call ‘self-efficacy’: our sense of what we can do, impact, and control. Many psychologists believe that self-efficacy is one of the most important predictors of what people will actually do and how successful they will be in accomplishing their goals."
"Sadly, as we age we often lose the ability to see things – and people – through a clear lens. We end up seeing the world through a filter of our own beliefs."
"Contrary to popular belief, it is not change itself that is so hard; what is hard is being honest with ourselves, looking at ourselves with no filters and admitting that we need to change."
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